November 05, 2005 06:26am
When Did Extreme Become Sexy & Where Do We Draw the Line?
Source: Adult Industry News
by: Devyn Devine
I remember watching my first porn movie when I was eight years old. [Devyn should have waited untill she was of age. -Ed.] My uncle had this stash of videos and magazines in his room in my grandmother's house. I use to go in there and I was amazed at the things I would see. The first porn I ever watched was Educating Nina starring none other than the amazing Nina Hartley.
I guess you could say Nina gave me my sex education early on. The thing about porn in the 80s was that it was raw and natural and human. It wasn't about super glamazons fulfilling your every sexual fantasy. The great thing about porn in the 80s was that the average Joe could watch it and picture himself in the scene. Sex was sex, and it was sexy.
So the thing that gets me in my little "porn adventure" is when I am asked if I do extreme. "You'd be good for extreme!" producers tell me. At first I was like, "What is extreme?" Then I found out. Throat gagging until puking, water sports - which is the nice was of saying either you are going to piss on someone or they are going to piss on you, hard sports - this is popular in England - think water sports, but think number 2! While I respect a person's right to privacy, come on! When did these things become sexy? It was Reece Witherspoon who said in her movie Legally Blond, "Whoever said orange was the new pink was seriously disturbed." and it is me who is saying whoever thinks drinking piss is the new blowjob has some issues!
Now I don't mean to sound judgmental. It is one thing if you walk into a scene fully knowing what you are expected to do, but it is quite another if you do not. Many reputable sites will tell you everything they fully intend on putting you through. As talent, if you are ok with that, then do the scene, get your money and immediately have your head checked. In my second week of doing porn, I walked into a scene in New Jersey where apparently I was going to be throat gagged until I puked, and then expected to brush my teeth with cum. Yeah, you might say I had a bit of a problem with that considering I have a really bad gag reflex and I don't swallow cum. The problem was, this guy didn't tell me a thing. Even as I was puking, he was still filming.
The same week I had the privilege of meeting two guys from another East Coast extreme site who kept telling me I would do their site. Well, I didn't, and mainly because this guy while appeared to be normal, really got off on the fact that I was molested as a child. Sorry, when I am sucking your dick, the last thing I want to talk about is daddy.
I really don't have a problem with girls who engage in this type of extreme behavior. In fact, I really respect them. What I do have a problem with are girls who are exploited in this business. While I won't publicly give the name of the web site I shot for who did this, I will warn any girl whom asks me directly about these sites.
Now, this also goes deeper than personal preference. There is the underlying question I wonder if producers of these sites ask themselves. The question is where do we draw the line?
With the onset of the technological revolution, web sites are popping up in mass numbers. Porn has moved away from the natural "let's all have sex" to "supermodel fantasy sex," and even now to what I call "Reality Porn." Porn is accessible on ever media outlet which as a porn starlet is great for me, but when we think about extreme sites, is this really a good thing? Where do we draw the line from entertainment and fantasy to motivating deviant behavior from seriously disturbed individuals?
The question I am challenging you with this column is this: Do extreme sites contribute to the misogynistic behaviors of hateful men in our society? If it does, what is the affect on non-porn women who are compared to us actresses and actors? Who really holds the power - the actresses who voluntarily use their bodies to advance their lives or the producers paying us for these acts? The next time you are watching some beautiful girl puke from a blowjob and then drink it up, think about these questions.
What do you think? I'd love to hear some feedback. I haven't done extreme, so if you have, please give me some perspective! Email your thoughts and comments to Devyn@AINews.com