May 31, 2005 07:00am
Ask a Swinger: Julie's Adult Travel Tips
by: Julie Wild
This time of year, I feel like an adult travel agent. I am often asked for travel suggestions by couples looking for unique vacation getaways. This weeks mail included questions on travel, adult movies and escorts. If you have a question, please e mail me at Julie@JulieWild.com
My husband's birthday is in June and I want to take him on a vacation that is romantic, yet erotic. I have read your web site and column for a long time and felt you could give me some good advice. We live in the Atlanta area.
I love when a woman takes charge and plans a special birthday celebration. Although I seldom like to recommend a specific place, I can think of several ideas to please your husband.
If you want to stay local, how about Paradise Valley Nudist Resort just north of Atlanta. They have a wonderful pool and hot tub. If you are looking to travel a little farther, the same group owns Paradise Lakes in Florida, near Tampa.
Another suggestion is to visit Las Vegas. I often suggest to couples looking to explore the swinging lifestyle but afraid of visiting a local club for fear of seeing a family friend or co-worker, to visit the swing clubs in Las Vegas. The Red Rooster and the Green Door are two clubs that come to mind.
If you have your passport in hand, how about Jamaica? If you live on the wild side, try Hedonism, if you are looking for something a little more elegant, try their sister club, Grand Lido.
I think you will find that you will enjoy your time together no matter where you go, but don't forget to discuss boundary issues if you plan to visit a swing club or resort.
Dear Coach Julie,
I have been married for 11 years, our sex life is non-existent. We only have sex a few times a year. My wife says that with time things will get better, but after 11 years, I am running out of time with her. She claims her doctor said it is not a medical condition.
I suggested we rent some adult movies and watch them together. She thinks that I am sick and I need the doctor. Do you have some suggestions.
I think the two of you need to run, don't walk to the nearest marriage therapist or relationship coach. A marriage that is only 11 years young and the sex has ceased is in trouble.
From what you have written, my concern is that she is dealing with a much deeper issue, possibly a past sexual trauma, like rape or incest. No porn movie will resolve these issues.
If the problem is with techniques or erotic inspiration, an adult movie will work wonders for the marriage, but if she becomes frigid, she needs to seek professional help.
Good luck with your situation, it sounds like a good therapist should be able to help get the two of you back on track.
Dear Ms. Wild,
My name is Rex and I am a 45 year old male. I travel a great deal on business. I see providers in almost every city I visit. I write reviews on two of the boards. My question is I have pages of reviews dating back to 2002.
Last week I called a new provider, she asked me if I write reviews on one of the boards. I told her my handle on the board and while we were talking, she looked up my reviews.
She told me that I am too experienced for her and declined an appointment. This has recently happened to me three times in less than a month. I know you are in contact with many providers and wondered what your personal opinion is. How many is too many reviews?
Rex the traveling hobbyist
I have only heard this discussed one other time by a provider friend. I am sure you know my feelings on reviews. After receiving your e mail, I put this question out to my girlfriends. The response to my question was overwhelming.
Most of my girlfriends told me that when they just started out, if a guy called and had more than a page of reviews, they would have declined the date as well. Seems you would intimidate them and they would be so focused on the chance at a good review by you, that they would not be themselves.
They also commented on the fact that they would read your reviews and see what your comments are and if they are negative or positive.
My suggestion is to only write reviews on providers where you think it would make a difference. It is not important to let the readers know you get around. If a new provider offers a memorable service, by all means write a review. If you encounter a bad experience or rip off, by all means write that. If your experience is basically the same as the other reviews already written about a provider, control your desire to write and let it go.
One more thing, when most men read reviews about a provider, they like to find one that has not had too many clients, something strange about it. Most like to visit new providers, well the ladies sometimes like to think their date will not be comparing the time they spend together to 50 other providers. Just a human characteristic or flaw.
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