May 18, 2005 04:19am
Ask a Swinger: All You Need to Know About Escorts
by: Julie Wild
My name is Julie Wild and I am a sex Coach in Atlanta Georgia. I started the Ask a Swinger column to help answer questions from men, women and couples on adult topics ranging from swinging to erotic foreplay. I receive e mails each week from readers asking for help.
In today's fast paced world, it is difficult to keep a relationship exciting while maintaining the day to day life. The two most requested topics are swinging and escorts. This weeks column is filled with information on hiring an escort. If you have a specific question, please feel free to e mail me at Julie@JulieWild.com .
My wife and I recently wrote to you concerning a threesome. Since we were not comfortable attending a swing club, you suggested we hire an escort. We were very lucky, we chose a lady in our area after reading her web site.
Since we enjoyed that encounter, my wife and I have decided to try our luck again on a local escort. Do you have any suggestions on choosing an escort. I searched a national escort web site for our area and found over 216 listings.
Jim & Sue
Dear Jim & Sue,
I am glad my advice worked out so well. I often suggest to couples who are having a hard time meeting couples in the lifestyle or chose not to attend a swing club to consider hiring an escort. Not all escorts cater to couples, but the ones that do, usually are experienced and can provide a wonderful memory.
There are several methods I suggest when choosing an escort. First, visit some of the local escort sites. Read them thoroughly. If your budget allows, consider a traveling Porn Star Provider, these ladies are very professional and their fees are usually much more than a local provider.
You can always go to one of the national escort review sites, like TER (The Erotic Review) or BigDoggie. These sites offer reviews of the providers by city and state. I personally recommend looking very closely at the reviews as well as the reviewers. From personal experience, I have often found these reviews to be inaccurate as well as biased.
If you find a new provider with a few reviews, but the reviewers are all also new, be careful. Many new providers ask clients to review them to help them build their business. I would like to see some reviews from experienced hobbyist.
I suggest a better method, both of these sites have discussion boards, read the boards, watch what is being said about different providers. This is usually more accurate than the reviews themselves. Remember the term YMMV, which means, your experience might be different than the reviewer.
Of course there are those of us in the profession that do not chose to be reviewed. Many say we like to fly under the radar screen. For different reasons, some providers do not allow reviews of their services. Do not allow this to influence your decision. I know many excellent, long term providers that have never been reviewed.
One of my best suggestions is to e mail or call the provider you are thinking about hiring. If she responds quickly and pleasantly, then I would consider hiring her. If she is too busy to respond to your request, I think I would keep searching. Please do not discuss details with a provider over the phone or in an e mail. Most providers will immediately hang up or delete your e mail.
I hope this helps and please let me know if the second time is as good as the first.
Dear Coach Julie,
I was cheated by an escort and I don't know what to do. I called a local service, I requested a girl in the ad. I set up the date for 9 pm at my hotel. I gave the service all my personal information and they assured me the girl I was going to see was the girl in the picture.
I called back at 9:30 to say she never arrived. They assured me she was on the way. I called back at 10 pm to ask what happened. They said she was running late but would be at my hotel in less than 10 minutes. I fell asleep waiting for my date. At 11:45 I heard a knock at the door. It was my date. Two hours late and the girl at my door looked nothing like the picture.
I let her in and gave her the $300 donation. She walked out and handed the money to her driver. Then she started to make small talk and I started to undress her. She stopped me and stated that the $300 was just for showing up. If I wanted anything more, it would cost from $200 to $400 more.
I was really mad, I felt I was tricked. So I told her I was calling the agency. She informed me that anything more was illegal and walked out. What can I do, I am out $300 and feel cheated.
Dear Traveling Man,
Next time, do your homework. Most independent providers and agencies do not play those games. Unfortunately there are a few who prey on the innocent. There are many rip-offs like cash and dash, upsell and fake pictures.
Most escort sites like TER and BigDoggie have sections devoted to warnings about these types of activities. The only problem is once their tricks are discovered, they just change names and phone numbers.
The cash and dash is most often played by groups, you are told to meet a person at a door to an apartment building or gated community. You hand the donation over to that person, then you are told to go to apartment number - - - and of course no one is there. You instantly realize you have just been duped. Then who are you going to call? So most hobbyist post these types of activates on these national boards.
The upsell has been around forever. You see an ad for a beautiful lady for $200 - $300 an hour. You call and arrange a date. The lady shows up only to spoil your evening by asking for more money, explaining that the "fee" goes directly to the agency. This always spoils an evening. My suggestion is to either find an independent provider or stay with a well respected agency. Most well known agencies do not all providers to play these games.
Always ask providers how current the pictures are and if they are real. Some sites even offer "verified photos" to be sure the person in the picture is the same person who is advertising, but even then, some providers might appear thinner or heavier in the pictures. Remember, it is about the experience, not just the physical body.
What is all the talk about Escort Blogs?
I am so glad you asked. Blogs have been around for a few years, they are a web log, which can easily be updated daily. A few providers have these blogs, usually through a service. Now a new site offers escorts blogs and allows surfers to comment on the providers post. I usually don't recommend a web site, but this one is truly unique and easy to navigate. I started my own blog with EscortBlogs.net. Please visit the different escorts personal blogs and tell them Julie sent you. The service is new and growing each day.
If you have a question for Julie, please e mail me at Julie@JulieWild.com. If you would like to find out more on Julie's Phone Sex Coaching, please visit JulieWild.com or call me at 404-806-7386 for more information.