December 21, 2004 09:14pm
Ask a Swinger: How To Find the Perfect Gift
by: Julie Wild
Give the Gift of Love. With the new year in sight, I want to take the opportunity to thank all my loyal readers who keep me motivated. I appreciate the questions and comments. This week I received several questions on finding the perfect gift for that special someone. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
I have the greatest husband in the world, he is a good friend, a great dad and a excellent lover. I know the perfect present for my husband, but can't seem to figure out how to arrange it. He wants a threesome with another women. Can you help me?
You sound like a great wife if you are wanting to spoil him with a threesome. Assuming you have no problems with a threesome, I would suggest contacting an escort. Using the internet, locate a few escorts in your area. Contact them by e mail and ask if they work with couples. Tell them exactly what you are looking for, but do not mention anything sexual or they most likely will not respond.
Some escorts love working with couples, others only see male clients. Once you find an escort that seems to be understanding and takes the time to either e mail you or talk to you on the phone, arrange a time to meet. I think it would be erotic to reserve a room at a fancy hotel, arrange to meet the escort in the bar. Enjoy your holiday and remember, presentation is 99% of the excitement, so please put some thought in your plans.
We were invited to a party and they mentioned soft swinging and closed swinging, can you tell me what the difference is?
In the lifestyle, most people refer to three styles of swinging, soft swinging, closed swinging and open swinging.
Soft swinging is watching another couple during sexual relations. Sometimes this may involve foreplay with another partner, but no penetration with the other partner. Many couples start out as soft swingers as they first explore swinging.
Closed swinging is where the partners swap, and have sex in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Personally I do not recommend this style for couples new to the lifestyle.
Open swinging is where the partners have sex in the same room or bed. This includes group rooms and orgies. I recommend open swinging for couples who are looking to enjoy the full sexual experience. This style is great for exhibitionist and voyeurs.
Does it bother you to see your husband with another women? Does it bother him to see you with another man or couple?
Never. We share sex, intimacy and fun, not devotion. We are committed to each other. I adore my husband and feel confident in our relationship. Nothing makes me happier than to see him having a great time. Jealously is the emotion an infant feels when there is a fear of being abandoned.
It reminds me of the man who buys his wife diamonds, fancy cars and roses, so he can see her be happy, but take her to a swing club and see her having a great time playing and the husband comes home feeling bad. Talk about mixed signals.
I believe we should want our spouses to be happy, so for me, going to a swing club and watching my husband enjoy himself makes me feel good.
Can you recommend a gift for the man who has everything?
That sounds like a challenge. Since I don't know his hobbies or fantasies, I will give you some erotic suggestions. A.. Turn your bedroom into a sex palace for the night. Candles, rose petals, sexy lingerie, massage oil, soft music and send the kids to grandma's for the night. B.. Rent a limo and take him for a night on the town, start with dinner, then a topless club or swing club, finish the night off with a room at a nice hotel. C.. Take him to dinner and dancing, wear something sexy and leave the panties at home. Most men enjoy watching their wife act like an exhibitionist.
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