July 31, 2004 01:03am
Ask a Swinger - Dorm Room Fun!
Source: Adult Industry News
by: Julie Wild
Thank you for sending in all the wonderful letters and comments. I read all my emails and respond to each and every question. I never knew there were so many ways to have fun with food in the bedroom.
It's back to school time for all my college friends. I always love this time of year, because it brings back memories about my first experience with another girl and group sex in the college dorm. Thinking about all those fraternity parties gets me hot.
This weeks hot letters:
Dear Hot and Sexy Julie,
I am a freshman at University of Florida, I am sharing a room with another girl who I know from high school. She is a real party girl and I know from personal experience she is bi-sexual. She is already planning some wild and crazy parties in our room.
The problem is my boyfriend is going to Florida State and is very jealous. He is not into bi-sexual women and does not approve of me going to fraternity parties, since he knows they usually turn out to be one big orgy.
Jenny S. Gainesville FL.
It is hard on a relationship to separate, but this is the time in your life that you should be having a good time and exploring your sexuality. Be honest with your boyfriend about your needs and wants, but be prepared in case he decides to do some exploring on his own. As for your roommate, focus on why you are in college. Don't let a sexual relationship with your roommate damage your ability to study and live together.
I am starting college this year and I have a problem, I am still a virgin. I want to have a girlfriend, but can't seem to find anyone who is interested in me. All the girls seem to want the sports players and fitness gurus. Can you tell me what I can do to get a girlfriend. Any help would be appreciated, since I am climbing the walls and cyber porn just is not cutting it anymore. I masturbate almost 3 times a day.
John a freshman at Georgia Tech
During my nationwide phone Sex Coaching, I am asked this same question several times a week. So many men want to know how they will ever find a girlfriend. Most sex therapists and coaches will tell you to strengthen your body image and build up your self esteem. As a sex Coach, the first thing I would tell you if we were having a phone session is to decide if you are looking for a girlfriend, to developed a long term relationship or are you just looking for a sexual partner. This is very important since each will possess a different quality.
If you are looking for a girlfriend, the first thing to do is, stop chasing the cheerleaders and homecoming queens. You are just entering the dating world, stop chasing and start working on yourself, we call this "personal foundation." Learn to play an instrument, take a wine tasting class, join a cooking class, maybe join a bowling league. Start looking for girls that share similar interests, let them know you are available. Focus on the chemistry between the two of you, stop looking at her body.
In no time you will have several girls that you can take on a nice date. I know many "average" girls that had great sex every night in college and I also know a lot of beauty queens that left a lot of guys really horny at the end of their date. Don't go home hard and frustrated, take out a nice girl and just be yourself, you will have more fun than you could ever imagine.
I have read your column and visited your web site, but I don't understand how Sex Coaching works, what makes it unique to Phone sex or visiting a sex therapist?
Dave Amarillo TX.
Thank you for the question. Sex Coaching is very different than sex Therapy. In Sex Coaching I ask my clients to think about what is the most daring thing you would like to try sexually, then I ask my client to think about what do they really want from their life? Sex Coaching is about connecting the two. It is a combination of your sexuality and your spirituality. So if you have a block about something in your life, you can use sexual energy to help remove or release this block.
A therapist is trained to tell you what is acceptable and how you should live your life, a coach assists you in creating your own life. As a sex coach, I often role play to assist my clients to explore sexual fantasies and curiosities that would otherwise go unmet. I often share my swinging experiences with my clients in order to give them a better understanding of the alternative lifestyle.
The most common questions from male clients deal with the desire to feel anal penetration, wearing women's lingerie or fantasize having sex with another adult, usually a secretary, friend or family member. When calling a sex Coach, there is nothing to be embarrassed about, we are trained to handle all topics and fantasies.
If you would like to learn more about Julie's Phone Sex Coaching, please visit JulieWild.com or call 404-806-7386. If you have a question for Julie, please email Julie@JulieWild.com.