July 11, 2003 01:04am
Realistic View from Rose Garten of AINews
Source: Adult Industry News
by: Rose Garten
Rose Garten sends in her sometimes thorny views, quotes and opinions from the Atlantic coast where she covers the clubs and well-being of dancers behind the scenes. If you have questions, or need advice. Please contact her with your information and feedback at RoseGarten@AINews.com. In this column Rose answers a guy who's falling in love via webcam:
Good to hear that you're enjoying the summer. As far as your dilemma with the potential love interest. I've got a few questions to ask you:
1.What happened to dinner and a movie?
2.What happened to meeting someone, getting to know them and asking them for a date?
3.What happened to romance?
4.What happened to the first kiss?
Here is my advice as far as women are concerned: If you are truly looking for a girlfriend, partner, soul mate...it would be wise to understand women and what they look for in a potential mate.
Playing a game, or devising a carefully planned scheme to snare the woman in question seems a bit overboard.
Let's face reality... You've seen what she looks like. You've had discussions in the chatroom. You've talked about Star Trek and new wave music. You've asked some silly questions and made inane statements. You've asked questions that offended her and also admit to sending vicious email.
Jordan, you met her in a chatroom for a company/stripclub that now has cleverly come up with an idea to get your money via webcam. Do you see where I'm going with this?
I think we should call this exactly what it is. The lady in question is not a model---she is a sex-worker. "Real" models work for legitimate agencies for mainstream companies. "Real" models don't ask you for your credit card number and then get naked for you via webcam.
You wrote in your letter: "I was evicted the second time only because one of the models complained that I entered their chat rooms engaged them in free chat but never purchased V.I.P. time. The web administrator and I had a long discussion about the need to exhibit and show the models that I'm not merely browsing. That's understandable. All the while the boss of their site brought to my attention, a story which ensued. One of their cam girls actually conversed with a client, which led to marriage. He purchased V.I.P. time incessantly. Five months they continued to email until she ventured to meet him. They fell in love and are married to this day. I met them and she advocated that the same could happen to me."
Do you want that to happen to you? Think about it---I mean really think about it. What are you going to tell your family and friends that want to know how you met this girl?
Jordan, you are being played. The only interest they have in you, is your wallet. I am willing to bet if you whip out some plastic, they'll treat you really well---for a while. Can you afford to pay for V.I.P. time incessantly for 5 months just to get a date? If you could---why would you want to? Wake up and smell the roses.
Yes, it's probably true that one of the webcam-models went to meet a customer and they are married now. I think it also may be true that love had nothing to do with it. Women in this biz meet lots of wealthy men that are willing to throw money at them.
Yes, fairy tales do come true. Remember Anna Nicole and her wealthy oil tycoon? Hell, what about Hugh Hefner and his outrageous parties? Hef's constantly surrounded by at least a half a dozen Pamela Anderson Clones 99.9% of the time. Does love have anything to do with that? Should it? Is it real?
So, what are you looking for? Do you want something that is real? Are you willing to pay for the attentions of this webcam-model and a "maybe" for a potential relationship? That decision is yours to make.
I hope things work out well for you. Please take care--the world is full of thorns and pricks.