June 13, 2001 10:48am
Promised You a Rose Garten: Exotic Dancers Talk About Sex!
Source: Independent for AINews
by: Rose Garten
Is sex better with exotic dancers or with women outside of the profession? I have read several articles, most written by men about exotic dancers/strippers. Sexually descriptive articles that portray them as always multi-orgasmic, screaming, uninhibited, do-me-because-I-can't-get-enough mechanical dolls! Are these stories true or just some writer's fantasy? Let's ask the dancers!
Cindy replied, "Sex is a sacred thing for me. Giving myself to someone and connecting with that person means everything! When sharing a sexual experience with someone I truly care about there are no limits. I have been lucky to find a lover that is in-tune with me---and I don't mean that I'm smothered by it, but he gives me heart and soul. Isn't that what everyone wants or expects in a relationship?"
Erica replied, "Well, maybe I am a screamer---I've always been very vocal in bed and other places for that matter! I feel that not only does it help to tell your lover what you need---but it's also empowering to ask and receive what you ask for! Yes, I believe in seizing the moment! (Laughs) I just want it when I want it! Finding a lover that is willing to do it anywhere anytime is a big turn-on for me."
Billie replied, "I think a lot of this has to do with the person that you are doing it with! I have been with lovers that only wanted the wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am! Fuck! I hate that especially when I'd like them to take a little time. I mean shit----I could've watched a movie! If I can't find a lover that cares enough to satisfy my needs---what fucking good are they?"
Jill replied, "When men read this they'll probably spring wood, but I'm just sharing my experience. The most incredible sex I've ever had was with 2 men. I'm not bragging about it, nor am I ashamed of it. I'm not the type to have sex with anybody---both of these men have been friends for years. We were on a 2-week camping and canoeing trip. One evening around the fire we shared a conversation about sexual experiences. They told me their fantasies and I told them mine, and it lead to something more. No big deal---just friends having fun, and of course safe sex."
Sandra replied, "Now, since I'm older---I feel that the sex is better! When I was 18 I didn't know what the hell I was suppose to be doing! Today, I educate myself about things I'd like to try. Let's talk about blowjobs----what feels good to one guy may not feel good to another! The same goes for women. A lover was eating my pussy in a way that I could not get into, and then after having a conversation about it----they were just doing what their previous lover was crazy about! I would say that exotic dancers are not any different than other women---we ALL have personal preferences, men too!"
Blake replied, "I have many male friends. The truth is, I'm sexually attracted to women! I don't share that in the clubs---it's not the customer's business to know that about me. I'm very private with sexual matters. So, I suppose my gentleman customers would be very surprised if they knew my preference. Some might get aroused by the notion---but I'd never in my wildest fantasies want to have sex with a man! Does being an exotic dancer make me a better lover? I don't know you'd have to ask my soul mate. I'm positive she and I would both agree that my job has nothing to do with it!"
Whitney replied, "When I read articles by men that state they dated an exotic dancer/stripper, I take a deep breath, and look at the motivation behind the article. Most of them are only about sex----I'd like to think that men have deeper thought processes. A man that loves the woman he is with, no matter what her occupation, would not put their love making habits on display for the whole world to see. The mechanical part of sex is just a function, memorable sex is filled with emotion."
Amanda replied, "I think these stories might have some truth in them mixed with lots of exaggeration! Let's face it----it's human nature to want something to be better than what it actually is in reality. I don't know if causing a woman to moan makes the sex better---apparently some men might think so. What if the reason she is moaning is because now she realizes that he isn't any good? That changes things---doesn't it? (Laughs) Yes, I will be the first to admit that I've had sex with a man that I'd never want to have sex with again!"
Natalie replied, "It's a sad day when women are judged by an occupation on how they will perform sexually. You know the saying---Never judge a book by its cover. I think we are conditioned to form opinions about others by occupation, financial status, marital status, and educational background. Read the obituary columns! A job does not necessarily define a person, nor should it be a measure of sexual expertise. Personal appearance is another thing! I've been with sexy men that were terrible in bed. I'm sure that men have met women that were beautiful, but bad lovers!"
Terri replied, "You know, I really don't care what anyone thinks about me. If they think that I'm a fucking wildcat in bed, so be it. I could care less. I can be wildcat in bed when I want to be---but if I don't, leave me the fuck alone! Yes, I run into men all the time that think I wear a g-string and stilettos 24/7. Right! Can you imagine wearing this shit while sweeping the carpet? Oh yes, I even wash dishes wearing nothing but heels and a smile! Give me a fucking break! (Laughs) They may have any fantasy they want to have about me while I'm dancing and they are paying me money! My fantasy is that every night is a good night and every customer tips me with 100-dollar bills! Fantasies never hurt anyone---reality is the bitch!"
Okay readers, here are the opinions of 10 different exotic dancers from 10 different states stretching from east to west coast. I think we should take a vote! You tell me which one of these exotic dancers would be "the best" sexual partner, and why! We'll post the results on Adult Industry News. Sorry, we don't have photos!
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