September 14, 2006 05:15am
Ask a Swinger: Tips for Seeing an Escort
by: Julie Wild
My mailbox was full this week with questions concerning seeing an escort for the first time. I have compiled a list of suggestions for the "newbie's." If you are considering hiring an escort, this is a must read.
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My wife and I have a very open relationship; we talk about fantasies a lot. Last month she took it to the next level with my o.k. And got a little crazy while on a girls only trip to the beach. She came straight home and confessed. We had the best sex of our lives off of that event. The idea of her getting it then telling me about it for some reason turns me on and apparently does her judging by her actions in the bedroom. My question is it normal to get turned on by the idea of another man doing your wife and should I let her get crazy on occasions in order to keep the fires burning. Do "real" men do this kind of thing? I need to know quick as another trip is coming shortly and I would love another event to talk about for the rest of the year.
Your actions are very common. I meet men all the time that wish their wives would become escorts on the side. The idea of their wives being with another man is a huge turn-on. Professionally, I believe the reason men often fantasize about this is because when a lady is pursued by another man, it validates or assures a spouse that his partner is still desirable by other men.
I have been thinking about hiring an escort for a long time. I see prices as low as $150 an hour to as high as $2,000 an hour. I realize some ladies are more physically fit than others, but is there any other difference?
In the industry or profession, we like to say there are high volume providers and then there are low volume providers. Of course the high volume providers charge less, they often see several clients in one day. The high end providers, generally only see one or two clients a day. Another reason for the difference in price is conversation skills. Most gentlemen hire an escort for intimacy and meaningful conversation. So communication skills are especially important and often a basis for an escort setting an hourly price.
Not sure where to start. I have been dating the most beautiful lady for 11 months. We were introduced by a co-worker. I enjoy her company, we get along great. The only strange or unusual vice she has is her cell phone. When it rings, she will often not answer the phone. If she does answer, she will just say, " I am with a friend, can I call you back."
When I asked her about the calls, she said they are work related and drops the conversation. She has always told me that she is a consultant. She never wants to discuss her work. Well it happened, last night, we were at a nice restaurant having dinner when a well dressed gentleman came up and said hello to my girlfriend, only he called her by another name. When he walked away, I asked her why he called her by a different name and she said he was old and dropped the subject.
When I got home, I searched the web and in just a few seconds, I was linked to her escorting site. Just as I thought, she had something to hide, she is an escort. I am devastated, not sure what to do. Can you help me?
You have two problems, one is that she was not honest with you. That is a serious problem, the other issue is that I feel certain that if she had told you sooner, you would have not continued the relationship.
My suggestion is to talk to her about the site, be open and honest, share your thoughts and feelings. Either accept her for who she is, or maybe it is time to end the relationship. Personally, I would try setting boundaries, maybe limit the information shared about her work or the hours she works. Try talking to your girlfriend, if the two of you enjoyed yesterday, there should be no reason you can't enjoy today and tomorrow together.
Julie's Escorting Tips:
Hiring an escort is similar to hiring a professional hairdresser, doctor or lawyer. They only have their time to sell. Escorts are very careful talking or corresponding with potential clients. This goes with the profession. If you are not serious about hiring a professional escort, I would suggest reading my article, searching the review sites and limiting your correspondence with the ladies.
Before calling or e mailing an escort, read her website, pay attention to her requests, like " no phone calls past 10 pm or no blocked calls." Take some time and view several escort sites for your area. Maybe visit one of the major escort advertising sites for your city.
If you contact a provider, do not discuss specific services or specific sexual acts. This is reason enough to end the call for most providers. Never try to "negotiate" on the price posted on the providers web site. We are not selling a used car, we are sharing our lives, body, mind and soul.
Once you have made contact with a provider, be as open as you feel comfortable with her, do not give her any reason to believe you might be working with law enforcement, trying to entrap her. Set up an appointment and confirm the time, date and location. I always suggest making contact with the provider the day before, to reconfirm the appointment.
When you arrive, make sure you are prompt. It is never wise to arrive too early or too late. Always arrive clean, ready to meet a very classy lady. Most escorts request the fee or gift to be placed on a dresser or counter, in a plain envelope. Please read her website for detailed instructions on placing the "donation or gift."
Although most escorts do not request gifts or presents, it is always a good idea to consider bringing flowers, wine or candy to a provider. Never arrive intoxicated or smelling of cigarette smoke. You are meeting the lady to spend some quality time with her, she will not enjoy talking to a highly intoxicated client.
Choose a generic topic to start the conversation, avoid questions like, "are you married or do you have children," on the first visit. If all goes well, you might find the right time to discuss personal issues like, "why did you become an escort," or "how many clients do you see in an average day."
Never act strange or ask unusual questions that would lead a provider to question if you have a hidden agenda. Always act like a gentleman and treat the escort like a date, not a toy. Remember, you are paying the escort to share a small piece of her life with you, not renting a female body for one or two hours.
If you enjoyed the time you spent with the provider, I always recommend that you e mail the provider after the appointment and let her know how much you enjoyed the session.
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